Some people use their fury as their fuel to do all of the hard things whereas I use it as inarguable proof that I should take a nap. Do-ers and Sleepers is what I call them. I’m pretty sure a poet or someone of historical significance said that it takes all kinds for the world to go ‘round.
I’m sure this will come as a shock but I am a SLEEPER. I DO a lot, too. Though mostly only out of obligation. Owning a business, marriage, and motherhood are a real buzzkill sometimes. But I am a Sleeper by nature— and, more importantly, by choice.
I have never been one of those time to lean, time to clean fools. I married one of those fools. Joe is a DOER. He is always off in some room of the house wiping some substance off of some surface somewhere or folding some article of kid clothing that he washed earlier in the day— an article of clothing that, I’m nearly positive, wasn’t dirty at all and only thrown in one of the seven hampers we have scattered around this house in an effective effort effort to avoid refolding and placing the single t-shirt or pair of leggings into the drawer it came from because it’s too hard. Obviously, this tactic is quietly appreciated by this Sleeper.
His dedication to productivity sometimes gives me anxiety. I’ll find myself saying “Will you just sit down already? It’s Saturday. You need to relax. I can’t relax until you relax because you’re always standing and buzzing around. It makes me nervous.” To which he responds, “The laundry doesn’t do itself, Queen B. But do feel free to step in and assist…” To which I, the egalitarian that I am, say, “I’m good but thank you so much for asking. Plus, you look like you have it completely under control and you’re so good at it, too. So much better than me. I mean, just look at those crisp folds, Joe! I’ve never been so un-wrinkly and kempt. You should quit your day job and become a professional folder! What a life you would live! Anyway, my t-shirts and underpants thank you in advance for your service.“
Then, just when he’s about to respond with an equally infuriating comeback, I politely excuse myself to go take a nap because it is 11am on a Saturday, after all, and what else does one do at 11am on a Saturday? Joe can list a great number of things to be done on a Saturday but this isn’t about him so we shall ignore him and leave him to his chores. The laundry doesn’t do itself, you know!
Joe will sigh loudly in exasperation because I am an asshole and yet so disarmingly charming and cute. Hearing that audible sigh feels like a victory and comforting because I know that, he is smiling and shaking his head as he does it. He thinks I am impossible and he knows that I know that he thinks I’m impossible but we both appreciate the mutual consistency of each others’ ridiculousness.
Doers and Sleepers. It takes all kinds for the world to go round.